Anonymous asked: I was reading your responses to some of the questions and I wanted to say that I empathise with your predicament. Dealing with unmatched sexual libidos is difficult to say the least. When you say that you are writing to the mistress you hope to have one day - is this something you are seriously considering? If so, would this be with or without the consent of your wife? (How long have you been married? If you don't mind me asking.)
I’m not really actively pursuing a mistress, but I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that my wife will never be the match to my sexual personality that I need. I’m pretty sure she knows that, too.
My sexual needs are not excessive in my opinion. From the research I’ve done on it I am about as normal in my libido as any other guy. The struggle comes from the perspective my wife has on sex and the husband/wife relationship. That makes our sex life suck.
I can’t say that finding a mistress would be with the consent of my wife. She’s entirely too insecure to ever consider this. And as for marriage, I’ve been married for about 15 years.